I was browsing through Facebook and an interesting quote caught my attention:
“Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.”
This got me thinking a lot about how many times in life do we actually live for ourselves first? Aren’t our choices are mostly a reflection of others’ want us to do or what others’ find ‘right’ or what is acceptable in our society?
Since a young age, we have been bombarded with unsolicited advice telling us how best to live our lives: Which traits are good and which are bad and which are a sin!
You will find number of people around you who are there to judge and criticize your every action. You sometimes feel you are under some kind of surveillance, if you took the right step, they are all praises but if you took one step for your happiness, which they might perceive as ‘wrong’, you will immediately be tagged as “Evil”, “selfish”, “unkind”, “unsocial”, the list of tags is endless! People even have a say in how and why we should be happy in a particular circumstance!
What no one tells you is, people who put unsolicited advice on you usually have a vested interest in you. In other words, their actions are driven by self-interest, not your interest. They do it to benefit themselves, not to benefit you.
What no one will ever tell you is you will never get a second chance at living this life. This should be the motivation to start doing what you want instead of some hollow path based on expectations of other people.
Of course, some people won’t understand your choices. But such is life! You can’t please everybody. When you follow your heart, you will actively displease people. But you know what they will be fine because they are too worried about themselves to worry about you for too long.
If you don’t like what you see, make changes until you do like what you see. Create life for yourself that is a reflection of what makes you happy. And do so unapologetically and as the foremost goal of your life!
“Don’t set boundaries, expand your horizons!”